kinksters, fandom & the internet(s)

Allow me to make a couple of points as transparent as I can manage:

 Sept ’11, Kitsap County, Washington

1. I don’t give a toss about rubbing shoulders with alleged leaders of the community. I don’t get off on it. It’s NICE, mind you, but it is not NECESSARY.

I may not be a face that people in any city’s scene recognizes easily, but that’s not to suggest I feel like a greenhorn regarding who I am or what I want, or that I have stuff to prove to people I don’t know. I won’t contribute too much energy into a celebrity solely in the hopes that they will bat an eyelash at me.

Workshops and parties can be lovely, and I’m fond of them. I revel in the ability to take in what folks have learned. However, I glean experience from people of my choosing, people I believe I can connect with on a level more developed than that of acquaintances. I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that’s okay.

I don’t feel that any sort of immunity toward leaders of the community is warranted. This Person/These People Can Do No Harm (Because They Are Well-Known) simply doesn’t wash with me. Scrutiny should apply to everyone, and if anything, leaders should be held to a higher standard. They’re certainly likely to have more responsibilities than your ‘average’ John Needles or Jane McCanes.

2. I don’t appreciate taking sides, especially when it comes to speculation on the internet. When I do, the end result is that I feel very low. I shut down.

The internet is a skewed form of how people are or can be offline, and I’m aware it has special ways of being able to bring out the worst in people quick snap.

I form my own opinions based on how little or how much information I’ve got, as most human beings would; I won’t attempt to claim otherwise. I prefer to remain as neutral as possible when not directly involved, and use the offline interactions to influence me when dealing with these matters, where available.

Oftentimes inactivity is seen as choosing a position anyway despite best efforts, and there really isn’t much I can do about that without dedicating time to issues I’d rather stay out of. I absolutely do not enjoy conflict.


Popular stances are not always correct, nor are popular people. Moments occur where wrong or right aren’t even relevant to the argument supported.

One thought on “kinksters, fandom & the internet(s)

  1. What I love about this post is its universal applicability – especially that of statement (1). I agree entirely – and not only in the present context.


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